I Survived Another Thanksgiving!

I feel like I should get t-shirts made that say “I survived Thanksgiving 2013.”  Our Thanksgivings are more like a family reunion then a turkey dinner and they can get a bit overwhelming.

There are pizza dinners Wednesday night (we never make those because they are far away from where we are), Thanksgiving dinner Thursday, the circus on Friday.  A group goes bowling Friday night and there is another dinner on Saturday.  See, I told you it was like a family reunion.  Because we drive quite a distance we only make the Thanksgiving dinner and the circus which is still a lot of family togetherness.

There were 47 of us gathered around 6 Thanksgiving tables at my Aunt’s house.  21 of the attendees are under 18.  The food was fabulous as always and everyone was dressed up and looking pretty.





I see people I only see once a year.  Cousins who live in different states. I met a new fiancee, I urged her to run away while she still could but she is naive enough to think marrying into this crazed mess will be fun.  It was a lovely night and my buttons didn’t get pushed by my extended family even once….That’s not something I can say every year…Thank goodness for good wine and anti-depressants.

The Circus was a bit disappointing from the performance perspective but it was nice to see my 47 nearest and dearest again.  The kids had a blast and the Thanksgiving Family Reunion 2013 was a roaring success…I’d still like that t-shirt though.

Hope you had a great Thanksgiving too.


What I am Thankful For?

In response to the question what are you thankful for this Thanksgiving, many of us respond – family, friends, health, jobs, a roof over my head.  I too am thankful for all of those things.  That being said, I thought it would be interesting to acknowledge the little things I am thankful for…the things that are often ignored around Thanksgiving tables.

…so here is my list of things I am thankful for…

  1. the training collars my big dogs wear that makes them actually listen (wondering if would work on my kids as well).
  2. Stacy’s pita chips although I do have a minor addiction to them which I am not thankful for as they are not helping my W8Lo challenge.
  3. the DVD player in the car which allows us to take cross country road trips with the kids without the use of duct tape.
  4. Delta Community Credit Union because if I bounce a check they don’t charge me.
  5. My giant washing machine because I can do three loads at once.
  6. My double oven because I am getting a little closer to having everything hot at the same time when I serve a meal.
  7. My GPS which has saved me on more then one occasion from turning on the wrong Peachtree street.
  8. Susan Chambers Dance Company which has provided an amazing outlet for CJ as he has discovered his love of dance all for free since boys are on a scholarship their first year.
  9. My kick ass long black boots (which I will be wearing tonight at Thanksgiving dinner, thank you very much).
  10. My little lap dog who is 9lbs of fierce.
  11. Subway because it is reasonably healthy, all the kids like it and it is easy to take to softball games.
  12. Softball because without it I have no social life.
  13.  My Kroger card because I have managed to get gas for under $3/gallon on more than one occasion.
  14. The internet because I would be so bored without it.
  15. The NaBloPoMo Challenge that reminded me how much I love to blog.

What are the little things that you’re thankful for?

Happy Thanksgiving to all and to all a good night.

Do I Have To Be Thankful For Every Mommy Moment?

When Jack first came home I swore I was going to love every second of being a mother.  After losing a baby and then going through the arduous process of adopting, I had worked hard to be a mom.  I saw people yelling at their kids in the grocery store or ignoring them in a restaurant and I promised myself that would never be me.  I was going to cherish every blessed moment of parenting.

Fast forward almost 16 years and you know what? I don’t cherish every moment.  I yell at my kids in the grocery store and I have attempted (usually unsuccessfully) to ignore my children at a restaurant so that my husband and I could try to have an adult conversation. There are even moments when I wonder if it’s all worth it;  If maybe I would have been better off living the yuppie life.

I love my kids, I really do.  Always.  The thing is there are times I could most definitely do without.  I don’t need to be awoken at 2 am by a child covered from head to toe in an itchy rash.  I could use a few minutes of silence both before and after dinner.  I would love a teenager who gladly handed me his phone so I could check his text messages.  And there are days I could do without the hormonal 13 year old crying over being looked at sideways.

As Thanksgiving approaches and everyone is talking about what they are thankful for I am wondering if it’s okay that I feel this way.  Can I still be thankful for my children even if I don’t like being a mom every blessed moment?

I gave this question a lot of thought and I have decided that the answer is yes.  I don’t think you have to love every moment.  Sheesh, parenting is not always fun and there are lots of really hard parts.  I think that there is something warped about anyone that says they love every second of parenting.  It’s just not humanly possible.  The important thing is not to love every second but to acknowledge the seconds that you do love:

When my 7 year old looks up at me and says, “I love you so much, there is no more room in my heart,”  my heart melts and I am so thankful for being a mom.

When my 10 year old does his elf face and makes an entire room of people laugh, I beam with pride at his sense of humor and I am so thankful for being a mom.

When my 13 year old offers to make many loaves of banana bread for a friends fundraiser, I am pleased by her generosity and I am so thankful for being a mom.

When my 15 year old teaches his younger brother how to play basketball for hours with the patience of a saint, I am amazed by his kindness and I am so thankful for being a mom.

When my kids all come together and rally around the one who is being mistreated by another kid, I am heartened at their strength and loyalty and I am so thankful for being a mom.

The moments that I am thankful for being a mom most definitely outweigh the ones when I am ready to hop in my car, with my little 9lb dog in tow, and just flee the jurisdiction.  Some days it is very hard to appreciate my kids with all the snarky comments, battle cries and whining, but when I stop and reflect, I realize that I am very thankful for my family.

Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours.